I’m going to stick with my original thought: Deployment
sucks. But when I’m having one of those days when I just want to feel sorry for
myself, I am reminded that I just need a little perspective.
Earlier this month, I drove down to South Carolina for my
brother in law’s wedding. We knew that Dave was going to miss the wedding since
the day we were invited (I’m still convinced it was revenge for our getting married
while he was in boot camp) and I had been preparing to attend without him for
months. My children both backed out of
going with me, so I was there solo to represent my little Doyle clan.
Everything was going well at the rehearsal dinner until Chris (the middle
brother) walked in and hugged Gary. I instantly felt a lump in my throat and my
eyes tearing up. There would be no drinking until 4 am and last minute
decisions to go sky diving for this brother. Dave was missing it and yeah,
deployment sucks.
The following weekend was Mother’s Day, and I spent it with
some other wives from the squadron like I usually do. We are quite the eclectic
group: some with kids, some without and two that are expecting their first
babies later this year. While they were talking about genetic testing, their
doctor and where they were delivering, I felt that lump in my throat and
stinging in my eyes again. More than likely, those Daddies are going to miss
their little ones entrance into the world. So, yeah, the birth of your first
child trumps your brother getting married. Those guys are winning the game.
Their deployment sucks worse than mine.
Earlier today, I got this text from my son:
I said a silent little prayer and asked him if he caught it.
I did not get the answer I wanted. My next thought was: well, do we burn it
down or just move? The obvious answer is that we are going to have to burn down
the house and start from scratch to make sure that little bastard doesn’t try
to move with us. Yeah, a giant lizard in my house equals deployment sucks in my
book.
About half an hour later, I stopped by a friend’s house to
deliver an order and she looked a little frantic. Turns out, the dogs had
gotten out. Once they (that’s right, I didn’t help, don’t judge me) got the
dogs back home, we retreated inside and began to chat. As we watched the kids
playing, well maybe not playing so much as tormenting each other, I began to
tell her this horrific lizard story and show her the picture. She looked a
little confused and I was like “What? There’s a lizard in my house. Isn’t that
awful?” She took a sip of wine, looked me square in the face and said “Tonyia,
I was walking around in SHIT up to my ankles last week. Not figurative shit.
Literal shit from the toilet flooded my house. So no, your lizard isn’t awful.”
Guess what? Today, Janine wins the game. Her deployment sucks worse than mine.
This deployment has been rough for both Dave and I and
nothing really points that out like sending birthday wishes to the ship. We
have both struggled to find our footing and to get into a routine the last
couple months. I was really feeling a little sorry for myself this morning when
I got a phone call from a friend. I assumed she was calling to ask me about the
mug I was personalizing for her, but I was wrong. So very wrong. She was
calling to let me know that the TR had lost a jet, it was a two seater (not one
of ours) and both pilots were found unharmed.
Guess what? At that moment, I realized this deployment hasn’t been that
bad. I feel like THOSE guys (or gals) are having a shitty deployment. Those
two: they are 100% having the worst deployment. Those families? They get to
spend some time bitching about how much deployment sucks. But in reality, those
families aren’t complaining and neither are the pilots.
Today we, as a Navy family are counting our blessings. Today
I realized that this deployment doesn’t suck as much as others. Today, I
remember pilots who were not found unharmed following an incident. When I think
of the sailors who missed a loved one’s last breath, missing the first breath
doesn’t seem so terrible anymore.
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